An Open Letter to Porn Addicted Christian Men

Dear Brothers in Christ,

On this blog I have written extensively on the harmful effects and devastation that viewing pornography brings into your life. I have shared my testimony of how pornography addiction nearly destroyed everything in my life… my marriage, my job, my health, and my position in the local church.

Today I want to write to you, man to man, brother to brother. If you are caught up in a secret habit of pornography it is time to take a stand and bring it to the light. I know what you are thinking… you can never tell anyone, it would ruin everything. Your wife would be devastated, your marriage might fall apart, you might lose your job, you might be shamed at church, your children… what would they think?

You need to understand something… all of those thoughts are not your own… they are whispers from an enemy that wants to destroy EVERYTHING in your life. You see the enemy wants you to keep everything hidden away in the darkness, this is where sin grows. They know if you bring your habit into the light of day, the hold it has over you will evaporate.

Believe me, I understand how incredibly difficult it is to tell ANYONE about a secret porn addiction… but that is exactly what you need to do, before it is too late. If you find yourself mindlessly watching porn with deep levels of regret afterwards you are addicted my friend… and just like any other addiction you need to take it very seriously.

At this point there is no question in my mind, if this article was written for you, that you desperately want help, you desperately want to quit this habit for good. So where do you go from here? The first step is to STOP watching porn, which means you will need to get some digital protection on your devices… RIGHT NOW. There are many programs that help in this area, but as you may know from reading my blog, I highly recommend Covenant Eyes which I have personally used for years with great success. Get something installed on your devices as soon as possible, you need to put defensive walls up quickly.

Next you need to come clean about your addiction, this is going to be the toughest step at first… but once you take it… the most exhilarating and life changing. You have to decide who you are going to share your struggle with. My advice is to seek out trusted counsel within your local church, preferably a member of the Pastoral staff. Most churches today either have programs to help you, or a list of other churches in the area that do. Once you have sat down with your Pastor, it is time to prayerfully approach your wife. You  need to be honest with her about your addiction, and commit to her that you will get the help you need. Show her the steps you have already taken (the software and the support group), deeply apologize to her – she will be in a lot of emotional pain at first… but if you approach her prayerfully it is my hope she will come along side you to support you in your recovery.

You need to realize something very important, in most everyone’s eyes pornography IS a form of adultery… it is certainly the case in your wife’s mind. This means, Biblically speaking, she has every right to divorce you. Let that sink in for a moment. She could divorce you, take your children and she would have every right to do so. This is the incredibly dark and destructive nature of sin… particularly sexual sin. So it is VERY important that you get on your knees in prayer to the Lord before you have that conversation with your wife.

The last thing I want to encourage you to do is download and read my ebook Shattering the Chains of Sexual Addiction. This book is free and a very quick read… it outlines everything I have done to break free of porn. When Jesus shattered those chains in my life, I knew a huge part of my ministry was going to be helping other men find that freedom.

It may seem like you are so lost in your addiction that there is no way out. OR even worse you may think you can continue to hide your addiction and no one will find out. On both of those points you are DEAD WRONG (take it from someone who has been on the path ahead of you). You are never SO lost that Jesus Christ cannot restore you… and if you continue your life of hidden sin, you WILL be discovered… it’s only a matter of when.

Brother, you don’t have to live in darkness anymore and as a Christian man God wants and expects more for you… He wants you to live a life of victory. If you want to talk one on one, you can email me anytime… I will be here. Standtallforchrist@gmail.com

Stay Strong & Stand Tall

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Fellowship Friday #10 Have You Met These Christian Bloggers?

Welcome back to Fellowship Friday, a new weekly post on Stand Tall For Christ where I will share 4 Christian Bloggers with you I have met from around the world. It is my hope by doing this you will discover some of the amazing men and women doing the Lord’s work and spend time in fellowship with them. I want to encourage you to visit their blogs, follow their blogs, comment on their blogs, share their blogs and ultimately grow spiritually from the time you spend with them.

Here are this week’s bloggers:

SizzMindTalkz

SizzMindTalkz: “I am a daughter of the one true King “ABBA Father I call Him”, who is not moved by the world. For my God is with me and goes before me. I do not fear because I am His.”

The Anesi Igebu

The Anesi Igebu: “I Have A Garden. It’s a little garden really, small flowers, different colours. I plant and water my flowers with the strength of Christ. Perhaps, one day, they’ll grow and people from all over would have a look at them.
Phillipians 4:13 ❤

I really enjoy writing and I’m using this forum to talk about Christ and hopefully, bring more people to Him, encouraging them all the way. Feel free to message me, my social media handles and mail are on the Contact Page!”

Faithful Echoes

Faithful Echoes: “After getting saved when I was 22  I began to study the Bible for the first time. Along with my personal study I regularly heard it taught and preached at church. It changed my life! I knew then I had to share it with others. The purpose of this site is to use the Bible to help & encourage the believer, the unbeliever and those who may be confused about what to believe. ”

Let Us Reason Together

Let Us Reason Together: “Our mission is to spread the everlasting gospel, uplift Christ and him crucified, defend the character of our Lord, and expose the deceptions of Satan. It is also our firm belief that we are on the verge of the last days of this earth’s history, at the very ‘borders of eternity’ if you will, and therefore we feel it is our duty to give a warning message to the world concerning the coming crisis. It is our prayer that you may come to know Christ through these writings, and that you may be blessed and encouraged.”


Thank you for taking the time to check out these Christian authors, all doing Kingdom Work in the name of Jesus… AMEN! Check back here every Friday for another installment of Fellowship Friday with all new bloggers from around the world.

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Fellowship Friday #5 Have You Met These Christian Bloggers?

Welcome back to Fellowship Friday, a new weekly post on Stand Tall For Christ where I will share 4 Christian Bloggers with you I have met from around the world. It is my hope by doing this you will discover some of the amazing men and women doing the Lord’s work and spend time in fellowship with them. I want to encourage you to visit their blogs, follow their blogs, comment on their blogs, share their blogs and ultimately grow spiritually from the time you spend with them.

Here are this week’s bloggers:

Wisdom Treasures

Wisdom Treasures: “The internet is the most powerful tool today, every information you can think of can be found on it. Unfortunately, a large part of the content may not be friendly to the born-again Christian. Wisdom treasures is a Christian blog started by Nimuah Emmanuel Tarko to provide Christian content that can appeal to all thereby spreading the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Inside Cup

Inside Cup: “God has called me to be a writer since I was thirteen. I am answering His call by preparing myself and standing upon a foundation that is entirely made up of Him. My passion and care as a writer is toward the reader. The writing world is fascinating, but my focus is on how to talk to the reader as an individual. This is my goal as a vessel.”

Through Ink and Image

Through Ink and Image: “Without a doubt, the foundation for Through Ink and Image was set long before the blog began.  After personally battling cancer in 2007 and losing my Mom to ovarian cancer in 2008, I began chronicling my faith journey through art.”

Help Me Believe

Help Me Believe: “Questions about God, Jesus, and the Bible? You aren’t alone. In an age where 70% of teens walk away from their faith, Help Me Believe exists to strengthen the faith of the believer and answer the questions of the critic.”


Thank you for taking the time to check out these Christian authors, all doing Kingdom Work in the name of Jesus… AMEN! Check back here every Friday for another installment of Fellowship Friday with all new bloggers from around the world.

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Living a Life of Victory

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This is a collection of STFC articles and resources on Living a Life of Victory in Jesus Christ. More will be added here as they are written. You will always find a link to this article on the front page of the website.

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